One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say — Have you practiced this as a leader?
Why this is most important now?
Listening to what another has to say is much more important to drive an effective meeting and plant collaborative results. Moreover, it will bring up an eye-opener for the team where hidden things could be seen through positive perspectives.
- Do you agree with me? Yes, certainly you can
Also, no one will ever have all of the right things to share, and ultimately, you will make better decisions as a leader by having diverse thoughts and views on your team. More fully you become very strong as a leader also you could easily increase your influence stamina too.
Your effective listening, according to Dr. Fulwiler (President of Transformational Leadership Associates, a program director at the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health, and the former Director of Health and Safety Worldwide at Procter and Gamble), is about words, dance, and music — the other person’s words, tonality, and body language. This is what listening with your entire body is about. It means going beyond someone’s words by paying attention to body language how the words are spoken (music) and putting this into the context of what you know about this individual.
We may have seen such servant leaders who have been practicing this through all BAU and crisis times and some
However, there are few individuals who don’t listen to their assigned subordinates. What I personally feel is; those who don’t listen may have mentally evolved and also fixed with their thought process that I shouldn’t be listening to my team and making a progressive decision and also, not ready to hear any #disagreements too.
However, there are many barriers to effective listening, particularly in our modern world. According to Fulwiler, some of the most common are:
- Prejudging the person you need to listen to
- Formulating a response or rebuttal before someone is finished with their message
- Listening just for facts
- Misunderstanding cultural cues
- Talking while watching personal gadgets — Phone/laptop and etc.
Once you recognize these barriers and how they might impact your listening skills, you can work on improving your effective listening skills. There are many ways to improvise your listening skills.
- Understand the difference between hearing & listening.
- Ask your peer groups whether am I a good listener. if they say NO, ask for feedback. (Asking feedback is an utmost leadership quality and most of us confuse feedback with the self-ego.
- Firstly, seek to understand and then be understood. (i.e. ask questions, brainstorm and etc.)
- Focus on the words, tonality, and body language of the other person. — This will help you to determine the background of the conversation.
By using all these components to practice effective listening, you can develop and strengthen your skills to improve your communication and leadership.